March 28, 2018
Countdown to Easter

March has literally flown by in wind gusts and rainstorms. It seems this year is getting away from us, and as we barrel toward Easter Weekend, this fast pace is catching up with me! In ministry, as in life, I find myself needing to take time to catch my breath. In my role as Children’s Pastor to 300 kids and families, I find that if I don’t stop and catch my breath, I will get bowled over, stressed out, and physically sick. And that is certainly not how I want to step into the most important time of the year, when we get to celebrate the whole reason we are followers of Jesus…and when we potentially see more people coming to church than any other Sunday for the rest of the year.

So, what should you do when life seems to be constantly busy and you need a minute?

Point your eyes on Jesus. Of course!

Matthew 14:23 says, “After He had sent the crowds away, He went up on the mountain by Himself to pray; and when it was evening, He was there alone.”

Jesus did the work that He needed to do and then He secluded Himself and prayed. Jesus didn’t just pray a quick 5-minute prayer in the midst of His To Do List. The scripture says He went up on the mountain to pray and He was still there alone well into the evening.

Many times in Jesus’ time on earth, He could be found seeking God in prayer, alone.

Mark 1:35 says, “In the early morning, He got up, left the house, and went away to a secluded place, and was praying there.”

Luke 5:16 says, “But Jesus himself would often slip away to the wilderness and pray.”

The thing I love is that no matter what part of the day, no matter how busy His schedule was, Jesus took time away, alone, to pray. This really challenges me, because as much as I spend time in prayer with God, I have to stop and think about time I seclude myself and pray. Where is my private mountain? Where is my secluded place?

To be honest, sometimes it is in my car, either parked in my garage or surrounded by standstill traffic on the 101. Or sometimes it is at my kitchen sink or in the bathtub. More times than not, as a Pastor, I find myself praying over the phone, in coffee shops, in people’s homes and hospital rooms, over baby cribs, and with other people. All of those things are not bad – praying with people and spending time with God is a good thing. But for the rest of the month, I’m going to take a lesson from Jesus and seclude myself to pray. I want to sit in the quiet and approach God alone. This way, I can continue to do the things He has asked me to do. I can rely on His strength and not my own. I can celebrate His death and resurrection in awe and wonder without rushing or stress.

I believe that deepening my alone time with God in prayer will reveal the greater purposes of my life here on earth. And that through this relationship with Him, I will come to know Him more intimately and begin to understand all that awaits in Heaven.

I challenge you to find secluded time to pray. I encourage you to be still and quiet, and listen for His voice. Easter preparations can wait. God wants us to honor Him and we can’t do that in the hustle and bustle of life. We have to stop sometimes and wait. Don’t just do something, stand there. Be with God.

Won’t you join me?

ABOUT LORI ANN PISCIONERI

Born in Texas and raised in Louisiana, Lori Ann Piscioneri has the pleasure to serve as the Kids Pastor at Oasis Church in Los Angeles, located in the middle of the most populated part of the city – Koreatown.  Oasis is a culturally diverse church with contemporary services and relevant teaching for people of all ages.  Having grown up in church, Lori Ann was first drawn to serve in Kids ministry at Oasis in 2010, and became Kids Pastor in 2013.  She is a professional opera singer and voice teacher and believes God placed her in Kids to help them build their faith and discover their gifts and talents.  Lori Ann and her husband Mike “Pish” serve together, building up disciples for Christ not only in Kids but as Connect Group Leaders and mentors for young adults and couples in Los Angeles.  They write, produce, and perform in exciting and creative curriculum for Kids ages 2 – 12.

February 14, 2018
10 Ways to Love Your Husband
  1. Be kind.
    Most of the time, we are kinder and more polite to strangers and acquaintances than we are to our spouses. It should not be that way, but often it is. Little acts of kindness can go a long way towards creating intimacy.
  1. Demonstrate respect.
    You are not his mother, so don’t talk down to him or nag him. Interrupting him communicates disrespect (at at least, that is what Philip tells me!). So, let him finish his sentences . . . no matter how good you think your ending will would be!
  1. Get some sexy lingerie.
    Enough said, really.
  1. Occasionally be the sexual aggressor.
    He likes/needs to feel that you want him. Don’t just be the passive one. Mix it up!
  1. Go with him to a game/sporting event.
    He really does want your company. It is not about whether or not you like sports —just doing something with him shows your love. (But you are a smart woman, so surely you can learn a thing or two about the sport while you’re at it!)
  1. Kiss him.
    I’m not talking about the quick “don’t mess up my lipstick” kiss, but the “stop and grab his face” kiss. Even if you don’t have time for it to lead anywhere 🙂  . . . kissing is such a great connector!
  2. Listen without interrupting.
    Yes, I know this one is hard . . .
  3. Encourage him.
    Say something encouraging to him. He probably hears negativity all day long from others. What can you say that would be encouraging? What has he done well? Be his biggest cheerleader!!
  4. Say nice things about him in front of others.
    This is huge . . . and communicates love in a whole other way.
  5. Show support for his dreams.
    Come alongside him and support him. Life has a way of deflating our dreams. Let him know that you are with him and believe in him.

ABOUT HOLLY WAGNER

Holly and her husband, Philip, are the Pastors of Oasis Church – a growing, relevant, multi-cultural, church located in Los Angeles. They have been married for over 30 years, love life and enjoy spending time with their two adult children, Jordan and Paris. Holly is passionate about seeing women become who God has designed them to become, and to see every generation of woman extend a helping hand to the generation that is younger. Through the women’s ministry of Oasis, She Rises (GodChicks), she has empowered thousands of women around the world. Holly has written several books including Find Your Brave, WarriorChicks, Love Works, and Awakened.

 

 

February 7, 2018
For I Am Love

It’s that time of year again… when all of the pink hearts and cupids come out and our social media is bombarded with meaningful, but overly affectionate posts. Everywhere you look, “love” is plastered on decorations, desserts, and casually spoken in folded valentines. For many, it’s a time of memory-making and celebration. For others, it’s a confusing and isolating time.

There was a point in my life where hearing that dreaded 3-word phrase sent chills up my spine. Friends of mine would casually call out “I love you!” as they ran out the door or hung up the phone, and I constantly wondered why. What does that really mean and why does everyone insist on saying it?

To me, love was painful. It was angry. It was violating. When someone said “God loves you,” I constantly felt confused because the primary human expression of love I had experienced up to that point did not match the beautiful, gentle description of God’s love in Scripture. It took going on an intense journey of deconstructing that manmade understanding within my heart to reconstruct a correct view of my Savior’s love.

God’s love is boundless. It’s reckless. It literally doesn’t make sense, because we have no matching example of it here on this earth. Many of us, in fact, have a definition of love in our head that is damaging and painful. Until we meet Jesus face to face, we are all on a journey to discovery the depths and the widths and the heights of His love. In reality, whatever understanding we gain from this journey is only a drop’s worth of the oceans of His love. Isn’t that amazing?

God wants us to know His love in a way that changes how we see ourselves and the world around us. Oh, that we would know the overwhelming, never-ending love of God.

If we were to take God’s intimate love put forth throughout the Word and translate it into a single letter, I think it would say something like this:

Dear daughter,

Be still for a moment, and know me. I am Love.

I chose you to be my daughter–before time began, before the foundations of the world. I am an artist, and I made you in the image of my Father. I knitted you together in your mother’s womb, counting every hair on your head along the way. I breathed life into your bones. I know your name, for I have called you by it. You are fearfully and wonderfully made. You are mine, and I love you; for I am Love.

Have you looked outside today? Do you see the grass on the ground, clothed with color and full of life? Have you glanced upward today to see the birds flying so freely? They have everything they need. How much more will I take care of you? For I am love.

Oh daughter, where there is love, there is no fear. For my love casts it all out! So when you are tempted to doubt and fade into the dark, step into my light. Be strong, be courageous, and fear not, my child, for I am with you. I will strengthen you when you are weak. I will help you when you are in need. I will uphold you, for I am on your side. What can man do to you? Nothing. Remember that my perfect love casts out all fear; for I am Love.

I will always take care of you. When you are hungry, you will feast at my table. When you are thirsty, you will be satisfied with living water. I will fight for you–you need only be still; for I am Love.

This love is patient. It is steadfast. It is far reaching. It is unfailing. There is none greater than me and there is no love greater than this. Nothing can separate you from it. No, not even your sin. I went to the cross while you were still sinning, to show you the depths of my love. By my wounds, you have been made whole. Greater love has no one than this! For I am Love.

My love will never run out on you. In fact, I desire to lavish it upon you day after day. You always have access to it, for you are my beloved child. Now, abide in it. Walk in it. Let it be the thing that clothes you.

For if you live in love, you live in Me. For I am Love.

(Scripture references: 2 Corinthians 6:18, Gen. 2:7, Psalm 46:10, Deuteronomy 7:9, 1 John 4:8, Genesis 1:27, Psalm 143:8, Psalm 139:14, Ephesians 1:4, Ephesians 2:10, Isaiah 43:1, John 1:12, Exodus, 14:14, Isaiah 41:10, Psalm 118:6, Romans 8:35, Romans 8:38-39, Isaiah 53:5, John 15, Colossians 3:14, Ephesians 5:2)

 

ABOUT LINZY WESTMAN

Linzy is a singer/songwriter and worship leader in the San Francisco Bay Area. She leads worship at various churches, conferences, and retreats around the country and is passionate about creating music that helps people connect with the heart of God. Linzy desperately wants to see God’s name lifted high in this hurting world and to help others recognize that it is because of Him we can fight for joy and healing. Her solo EP, Here in the Waiting, was released in July of 2015, shortly following her single entitled “I Surrender All to Thee.” When she’s not doing ministry, you will find her hiking, drinking coffee, or exploring new places with her hubby Dan and their sidekick (son) Peyton.

January 17, 2018
Starting With The Truth

I love any excuse for a new beginning or a fresh start.

2018 is upon us, and I find myself reflecting again on what I want to be different in my life in the upcoming year.

I try to notice where the same old sins keep popping up, and the one that has been brought to my attention is how often I compare and envy those remarkable women around me. Specifically, I find myself being judgmental and envious of those who are able to be transparent about their flaws.

I think the reason I envy that is because it is so hard for me.

It feels like one of my self-proclaimed life purposes is to hide those flaws that some people seem so able to accept about themselves.

I don’t like this about myself, and I know that a lack of authenticity is not the path to maturity.  

This continues to bring me back to the idea of TRUTHFULNESS as a practice for this upcoming year.

It’s not that I’m not a truthful person. I excel at being diplomatic, and working to avoid hurting people’s feelings. Part of what makes me a good leader is my genuine care and concern for others. However, while I want to be loving and gracious, I fear that too often I do that at the expense of truthfulness.

I want to be a woman who speaks the truth and does so without fear.  

In order to pursue this in 2018, I think what I need is to become more well-acquainted with the truth. It needs to be more of what I ingest in order for it to be more of what I communicate with my words and actions.

Here are a few specific ways I want to practice this in 2018…

  • PRAY HONESTLY. I heard a phenomenal pastor preach about how important it is for us to pray prayers that are honest and bigger than the reach of our ability. Instead of asking God for what I really want, I try and figure out what He wants, and pray that, to make His job a little easier for Him. I don’t know when or why I decided that was part of my human job description, but I want to give that one up this year. I want to be fearlessly honest in my conversations with God, because I believe that He already knows and that I am the one who needs to hear that truth the most.
  • SHARE TRUE FEELINGS. I too often curate and filter my thoughts and feelings to try and appease the people around me. There’s certainly something to be said about discretion and wisdom, and I deeply value that. However, erring on that side leaves me feeling not known and not seen, rather than deeply connected, the way God created us to be. When I edit the honesty of what I share, I hinder the depth and authenticity of all every relationship I am a part of.
  • AVOID FLATTERY. In the same vein of curating what I say when it comes to sharing my honest thoughts and feelings, I sometimes fill in the blanks in silences and interactions with flattery and pleasantries just for the sake of being liked and approachable. Again, this isn’t a bad thing, necessarily, so much so as it’s just not the best thing. The best thing is honesty in relationships and true connection, and flattery doesn’t serve that purpose.
  • TAKE RESPONSIBILITY. It’s easier for me to take responsibility for other people’s stuff than for my own, and I have learned that I sometimes use that as a crutch to avoid looking at what I am actually responsible for. I wear busyness and other people’s stress as a badge of “care” and honor. When I pursue the truth about expectations and reality, I have to come to terms with what’s in my control and how very many things are not, so that I can be a good steward of what’s been entrusted to me. This is a humbling understanding, and keeps my perspective steady on God, who is actually in charge of everything.

I truly believe that our calling as Christians, particularly as leaders, is to be intimately acquainted with truth. I see my shortcomings in this area, and as 2018 approaches, I am determined to be steeped in truth and to prioritize that over my addiction to being liked or easygoing. Here’s to a more truthful 2018!

 

ABOUT SARAH ROSE LOCHELT

Sarah Rose Lochelt is a Southern-California native who is passionate about the power of communication and the connection that happens through conversation, especially when there is coffee involved. She is a pastor in the LA area and loves to write and speak about the lies of shame, the truth of grace, and the freedom that comes from relating authentically to one another, especially for women in the church. She always has at least one book to read in her purse, is infamous for making silly faces at babies in public, and could live on pizza for every meal.

 

January 8, 2018
#TIMESUP

I was wearing black last night as I watched the Golden Globes. Of course mine was black sweats by Target and not a designer gown :-), but I was standing (or sitting on my couch) with my sisters.

I have two thoughts …wanna read them?

  1. Just do.

In December, Time magazine named the “Silence Breakers” – those women and men who spoke out against discrimination, sexual harassment and abuse – as its ‘Person of the Year’ for 2017. Last year also included the revival of the #MeToo hash tag which inspired millions to share their stories of abuse and harassment. Last night women were wearing black because recently a new campaign- #TimesUp -was launched. This campaign was created, not only to continue raising awareness of harassment and abuse, but to also raise money to form a legal defense fund. This fund will go to people who have faced assault or prejudice in the workplace and don’t have access to legal representation in arenas such as agricultural, or factory workers, caretakers or waitresses.

I appreciate that the campaign is about more than wearing black attire, but is actually putting money where its mouth is. It is always easier to complain about something or like a post on social media than it is to actually do something.

And doing something is what we are supposed to do. As His Church we should lead the world in ‘doing.’

There are many issues that can grab our heart and attention these days. But regardless of which injustice fuels your passion, do something. We are to speak up for those who cannot, and ensure justice for those who need it.

Proverbs 31:8-98 Speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves;
ensure justice for those being crushed.
9 Yes, speak up for the poor and helpless,
and see that they get justice.

I continued to be stirred and outraged and the injustice many women around the earth suffer.

I host a conference every year that seeks to place value upon women, and at the same time mobilizing them to action. Three years ago was the first year we held the conference in the Dolby Theatre (home of the Academy Awards), and it felt as if all hell broke loose after we made the decision to hold the conference in that venue. The enemy hates it when women are mobilized to do good. Matthew Arnold put it this way:

“If there ever comes a time when the women of the world come together purely and simply for the benefit of mankind, it will be a force such as the world has never known.”

Just because it is hard, doesn’t mean we quit. Just keep looking for ways and places to bring justice.

  1. Together.

This recent issue is not a man versus woman issue.

It is right versus wrong, and I appreciate that many men, some of whom have been victims themselves, are speaking out.

God’s plan has always been that men and women honor and respect each other, partnering together to see His Kingdom of love and peace established.
Together.
We are supposed to make the world a better place together. And the enemy’s plan has always been to destroy that.

I can’t change the whole world, but I can work on mine. So for me, I am looking for where have I let division in my marriage, my friendships or my church become the norm instead of viewing division as the enemy to God’s plan.

So for 2018, how about if we add those two thoughts to the rest of our big plans for the year?

 

ABOUT HOLLY WAGNER

Holly and her husband, Philip, are the Pastors of Oasis Church – a growing, relevant, multi-cultural, church located in Los Angeles. They have been married for over 30 years, love life and enjoy spending time with their two adult children, Jordan and Paris. Holly is passionate about seeing women become who God has designed them to become, and to see every generation of woman extend a helping hand to the generation that is younger. Through the women’s ministry of Oasis, She Rises (GodChicks), she has empowered thousands of women around the world. Holly has written several books including Find Your Brave, WarriorChicks, Love Works, and Awakened.

 

December 13, 2017
Home for the Holidays?!

Home for the Holidays?!

Some of you love the thought of Christmas approaching. Like me, maybe you delight in the anticipation, the shopping, the meals, the lights, the snow (well, not here in LA!) and hanging out with friends and family. And others of you dread the whole season, wishing the calendar would quickly turn from the day before Thanksgiving to January 2. Most of our feelings of about Christmas come from our memories of childhood Christmases.
Here’s the thing.
You are not a child anymore. If you have great memories of Christmas, it is because someone made your Christmas great. And now you are the grown up. It is your turn to make Christmas great for someone else.
If you have painful holiday memories, then it is now your chance to create new ones.
Be careful about getting sentimental.
Be careful about wasting time wishing your memories were different.
Going to visit your family during for Christmas can be a good thing . . . and it can be a painful time.
If going to see your family only brings you pain . . . why go? If you keep hoping that your dad won’t get drunk this time, or your mom won’t constantly berate you, then maybe you should stay away. Or at least keep your visit brief.
As a grown up, you get to make your own family traditions.
If you are married, you have a new family . . . and you get to create your own holiday memories.

Six Holiday Traditions to Consider

  1.   Attend a candlelight service. ( My favorite thing!)
  2.   Have a special Christmas breakfast. (Ours involves Cinnabons!)
  3.   Read the story of Jesus’ birth before you open gifts. (After all, it is the reason we celebrate!)
  4.   Invite friends to Christmas dinner. (Life is always better with friends!)
  5.   Go see a movie Christmas night. (C’mon…the new Star Wars is out!!)
  6.   Purchase Christmas gifts for a family who is struggling. Surprise them! (We love doing this!)

Just some simple way to create your own traditions. Let’s make this the most wonderful time of the year!

 

ABOUT HOLLY WAGNER

Holly and her husband, Philip, are the Pastors of Oasis Church – a growing, relevant, multi-cultural, church located in Los Angeles. They have been married for over 30 years, love life and enjoy spending time with their two adult children, Jordan and Paris. Holly is passionate about seeing women become who God has designed them to become, and to see every generation of woman extend a helping hand to the generation that is younger. Through the women’s ministry of Oasis, She Rises (GodChicks), she has empowered thousands of women around the world. Holly has written several books including Find Your Brave, WarriorChicks, Love Works, and Awakened.

 

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